"Staging a surprise is the most exciting part of the proposal"
Keep in mind - “How did he ask?” - will be the question she will be asked the most. From the day you proposed to the day … probably… FOREVER!
Execution is the most important factor when staging a surprise proposal. It does not have to be big or glitzy, loud and public. It just has to be executed with a great finesse, and with one particular girl in mind. In other words - find what will make her happy, and just do it. Don't try to copy what others have done. Do your own thing.
"How he asked" - will be the story, she will tell and retell for many years to come.
Make it count!
Helpful tips for surprise makers
Rule Number One - Engage The Best Friend. Her best friend is your safest route for accurate insides not only on design and diamond “hopes”, but her ring size as well. And, if the friend doesn’t know right away, girls always have a way to ask without sounding the alarm. BFFs are the best at staging an "engagement ring window shopping". What you get, is the most detailed report, staying totally under the radar. (The Mother of your future wife is not a good choice for this scenario! Seriously, no mother takes her daughter “engagement ring window-shopping” without having a serious reason).
Rules of Engagement - “All's fair in love and war” … A ring missing for a day or two may not be as suspicious as you might think! Places to look for those “forgotten” treasures are sinks, tubs, kitchen counters, her nightstand etc. Employ your future mother-in-law. They know how to "displace" things, without it being totally suspicious. Make sure you work the measurements off of a ring she wears regularly. Be careful, though – make sure that is not a thumb ring or fashion ring meant to be worn on half-way position. Also be smart - choose a ring she is not overly, emotionally attached to – you do not want to cause distress and anxiety.
The "Do it yourself" method - make sure you have a ring that she wears on her ring finger. Slip this ring onto one of your fingers and draw a line on your finger on both sides of the band. Make sure the ring is in a comfortable position – not too tight or too loose. Now you have an outline to tell you how further along hers ring goes on your finger and where exactly it stops. You can now do two things: Run to the nearest jeweler and size the ring based on your drawing. Or best – request our free ring sizer and size your finger with it.
Print and Verify - Probably the best approach. Take one of her rings and place it on the PDF ring size chart you will find below. Make sure the INNER circle fits perfectly with one of ours. Get the BFF involved - have her to do it with you. Just to make sure two sets of eyes are seeing the same results. Don't forget, the inner circle of hers ring must fit in one of ours. Half sizes or quarters are hard to determine, that’s why we offer free re-sizing 60 days after your purchase.
The – ask her directly approach - If you have been discussing marriage for a while with your partner, but you still want the proposal to be a surprise – don’t hesitate to ask her directly about her ring size. Don’t worry, you get to keep the “when”, “where” and “how” factors for the surprise. After all, if all else is perfectly executed – you do not want a ring, that does not fit, to spoil the moment!
Few Things To account for:
Your dominant hand tends to be slightly bigger! Keep that in mind and make sure you are taking measurements for her left hand!
Finger sizes have absolutely nothing to do with height or weight! Neither can be an indicator of ring size! The most common sizes for women rings are 6 and 6.5.
Be aware thinner bands fit differently than wider bands!
Make sure when you go in for sizing it is not too hot or too cold outside. Our bodies tend to shrink or expand with extreme temperatures. Give it a few minutes for the body to adjust. No intense exercise prior to sizing. Exercise tends to bring an excess amount of blood to the limbs.
The "push it just a little bit further effect" - Do not do that! Do not force things on! If it does not feel comfortable now - it won't get any better a few hours from now. Or a few days! She does not have to feel uncomfortable to get into half a size smaller ring. You are choosing a ring for The Girl, not a girl that will fit a particular ring!
We are a design-driven, award-winning jewelry studio with 25 years of experience in designing and crafting engagement rings, wedding bands, and exquisite custom fine jewelry. Our jewelry pieces are crafted to the highest standards, using only the finest stones, to ensure each individual piece is a work of art. We meet with clients, by appointment, in Mizner Park, Boca Raton, Florida.